After dinner talk amongst friends in convivial situations often leads to that regular subject …. “what would you put on your ‘bucket list’?
Greatly interesting insights into friends can emerge from such discussions, and we all have had, I am sure, many hours of stimulating conversation during such jovial, and yet serious conversations – as all dinner talk should be.
This changes a little – or maybe a lot – when the discussion is not about theory but reality. People don’t ask
“So Dave what’s on your bucket list (before you peg it)?”
So any thoughts about a bucket list are left to oneself. I recently viewed (again) the highly entertaining movie “The bucket list” starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. I did so with some trepidation as I wondered whether this time around it would be too emotional and traumatic for me. However, I really enjoyed the movie again – it is a well made movie with a great balance of the serious, the humorous and the pathos needed to create an impact in any audience.
I have thought about this a lot, but have I written a list – no.
Its actually easier said than done when one is actually faced with the fact that it might really be a bucket list, rather than a theoretical exercise. When most people have a bucket list I contend that what they really have is a list of wishes and dreams, many of which they feel guilty about for not being able to fulfill because their priorities in life at that time are for other things – like paying the mortgage, taking the kids to sports events, balancing the cheque book, making their marriage work …… etc.
The bucket list provides a lovely interlude whereby dreams can be articulated and fantasies elaborated on. In that sense it is not a bucket list at all – it is a ‘to do’ list for ‘when I find the time’!
No-one anticipates the end of their life. We all know it will come someday but in western culture it remains a taboo subject – the subject of fun chat rather than serious discussion.
Maybe that’s why I don’t have a ‘bucket list’ – I have more important things to think about.